Caitlin Moran, “How to Be a Woman” (via Buffy Plays With Demons)
#yeah see that’s the thing that bothers me? #like #when I was a kid I wanted a bunch of kids #I wanted like FIVE #and I did for a long time#and no one was like ‘wow there that’s a lot maybe you should rethink your plans for the future’ #not a single person #everyone just thought ‘ah yes well she shall have five children and everything will be okay’ #but when I got older and realized that ‘hey I’m really not mother material. #I mean I love kids I really do #but I don’t want any of my own #I don’t want to be ON 24/7 having to constantly be in charge of this mini person #I want my own life #and tbh I don’t feel like passing on my genes I’m kind of a mess #and I’m a mess where even if I didn’t pass on my genes I’d probably still severely fuck up a kid #so maybe I just won’t have any’ #and THAT is when people started questioning my plans #’you don’t know for sure yet’ #’you’ll want kids when you find the right person’ #’once you really think about it you’ll want children’ #but no #that’s wrong #once I really thought about it was when I realized that wasn’t the life I wanted #and yet people seem to think that now that I’ve decided against it#I’m being immature #I don’t understand it at all
This happened to me today. No, I will not fucking “change my mind” when I “meet the right person”
Fuck you, my life and worth as a woman isn’t compromised because I DO NOT WANT CHILDREN.
I’m all for keeping my mind open on the matter, but fuq u gaiz stop telling me I should have kids if I don’t wanna have kids i won’t dammit and nothing you say will change that.